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“Sure, I think that this is a great site too.
And this site would indeed be better without fakers and people who act like assholes.
Just one problem: there is no community that polices itself and if the site starts policing more strictly, it's possible that it loses the very thing that makes it great.
However, the site could be more clear about what is "to conduct yourself in an adult manner".
"By accessing the site, you agree to conduct yourself in an adult manner. This specifically means being polite to all members in chats and in the discussion forums. Aggressive behavior will not be tolerated by any member. If Site Administration is informed of aggressive behavior, we will check the discussion forums and logs. Please ensure that you provide specific examples and remit for review via private message. Site Administration reserves the right to determine what is deemed aggressive behavior on a case by case basis."
I don't see this site rule being applied consistently. If it isn't practical to implement,
I think it should be changed.”
I was made aware that I tend to do that, to the point of annoyance.
Sorry, I couldn't let it be. I changed the last part to:
"I don't see this site rule being applied consistently. If it isn't practical to implement,
than I think it should be changed to represent the status quo.
If you don't like the status quo, then please propose a practical solution."
Who I perceive to be an “asshole” might not be someone that you perceive to be an “asshole”, right? I’ve been a member 15 to 16 years and I’m going to stick my neck out here, admin has been criticized for being too tough and he’s been criticized for not doing enough so in most instances, he has allowed US the duty of policing the site. His initial idea, this site, has evolved over the years and it is what it is. As for me, I “pick my fights”, primarily I choose not to interact with assholes and in many instances, the blacklist option is implemented.
You speak about policing the site. Hmmmm……sometime ago I reached out to you to discuss verification and verified you at that time. I’m going to play the Devil’s Advocate and drop this back onto YOU, why haven’t I seen you vote when members report members for deletion? Being a verified, tenured member gives you the PRIVILEGE of determining whether the reported member retains their membership or is booted from the site. That’s definitely a way of monitoring fakes, right?
I’m going to leave you with this food for thought; “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.”
All I’m really trying to grasp is he really hoping that admin is going to roll out a black and white policy that defines what a “fake” and what constitutes looking like an “asshole”?
You seem to think that googling something is cheating?
You first need to know something exists, before you can google it.
More people should check their facts, before they put it out there.
I might get a bit exuberant with the arguments sometimes, but as I pointed out before:
and get them in your local library.
I seem to remember you being one of the biggest bullies on this site when you were running around with that fat cock sucking whore lixsipsucket and her midget boyfriend along with leosploogy you bullied
Dgraff
Cody
Bella
Pit bull
Skittles
AOD
The school teacher who i can’t remember his name
So I guess that makes you a professional on bullying
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Never forget who you are and the things you have done because someone else will always remember
Tell everyone what a bad ass You were and how none of it was your fault
Maybe I can get the rest of the gang to chime in and tell their favorite story on your past history on this site
See my long comment.
My personal definition of an “asshole” is someone who keeps personally attacking a member with extremely vile language and very personal insults that are on and even over the legal limit of even your First Amendment protections. As you know, in the US there is no Absolute Free Speech.
When you read my whole comment, do you come to the conclusion that I want to ban those "fakers and people who act like assholes"? Why do I say "Just one problem"?
Didn't I say: "if the site starts policing more strictly, it's possible that it loses the very thing that makes it great"?
I'm doing the OPPOSITE of what you think I'm doing. I'm addressing the Terms Of Use, which says that people should be polite here. That is NOT the status quo. I'm not in any way polite, I'm very direct, sometimes insulting. Almost everyone her is doing the same or worse. I usually don't deal the first punch, when it gets downright nasty, but I can get nasty too. Maybe you even think that I'm being an 'asshole' sometimes or often, but I actually don't engage in my own definition of continually "personally attacking a member with extremely vile language". I hope you see that. I have called some Americans "traitor" before, if they CLEARLY completely disrespect your own Constitution. I have called someone a 'racist' before, if they CLEARLY make racist remarks. Meanwhile, I have been called much worse, repeatedly, for no reason whatsoever.
At one point, the verbal abuse towards me exceeded every limit of what is described in the TOS. That was the only time ever that I used the Abuse panel. No one agreed that the verbal abuse was out of line, so I’m using that as the standard of what is ‘acceptable’ here. However, that means that the part in the TOS that deals with ‘aggressive behavior’ is in my opinion completely useless. I don’t see it being applied consistently, so I cannot judge what is the standard for the Abuse panel. That’s why I don’t vote, when members report members for deletion. In the case of ‘fakers’, the TOS is saying: “However, administration of this site does not have any authority to make background checks on every member of the site. Therefore any member of this site may be not who they claim to be”. If admin doesn’t have any authority to make background checks on members of the site, then certainly members don’t have it either. Therefore, I don’t vote for Abuse panel claims about fake accounts. I expressed agreement with the person who said they don’t like it. It’s possible that people are doing revenge porn, but as you just argued yourself; it’s very difficult to recognize. That leaves under@ge pornography, which is the responsibility of the site administration. Do you now understand why I don’t vote in the Abuse panel?
I agreed with the person who didn’t like ‘fakers’ and ‘assholes’. However, I clearly said that more strict policing could hurt this site. This is now a place of almost Absolute Free Speech, and I am using THAT privilege. You are doing the same, even if you don’t realize it. You just posted a comment related to the Muslim faith, that if a similar comment was against the Jewish faith, would have been called Antisemitic by everyone here. You CAN criticize a religion, but that is different from expressing dislike and distrust towards a specific person, based ONLY on the fact that they belong to a religion. That’s called ‘prejudice’. I dare you to find one post from me where I do that.
Still, this is done by lots of people all the time, so it’s allowed. Like I said; “This is now a place of almost Absolute Free Speech”. I might be happier with a little more policing,
but I’m all about democracy. It looks like most people here would like an even ‘more Absolute’ Free Speech. That means that there is an inconsistence between the TOS and the status quo. That is calling for rule being applied inconsistently. I don’t like THAT.
It means that some people can break the law without consequences and others are being punished under the same law. That’s when I say; either apply the law consistently OR CHANGE THE LAW (to something that DOES fit the demand of the people).
“You just posted a comment related to the Muslim faith, that if a similar comment was against the Jewish faith, would have been called Antisemitic by everyone here.”
And since I am the person that you directed your response to, I will assume that when you begin the sentence with “You”, that you are referring to me, bella!. I apologize, I do not recall “just” posting anything about the Muslim faith.
There’s no doubt in my mind that you are an intelligent man. Me, observing from the sidelines, sees you as someone who sees things that are just black and/or white, absolutely no gray. The other day you and another member were exchanging posts that initially began about Charlie Kirk. As an observer from the sidelines, I felt that they were attempting to present you with “gray” and you would not entertain the possibility and that is unfortunate.
You wrote;
“At one point, the verbal abuse towards me exceeded every limit of what is described in the TOS. That was the only time ever that I used the Abuse panel. No one agreed that the verbal abuse was out of line, so I’m using that as the standard of what is ‘acceptable’ here. However, that means that the part in the TOS that deals with ‘aggressive behavior’ is in my opinion completely useless. I don’t see it being applied consistently, so I cannot judge what is the standard for the Abuse panel.”
I’m going to respond from MY EXPERIENCE & PERSPECTIVE. I have had interactions with someone who I consider a complete 100% asshole. Do others view this member in the same way? Probably not. I feel that this same person is an intolerable bully. Perhaps others see this member as a defender of truth OR just a funny person. What do you do with this type of member, do YOU feel that admin needs to be more definitive in the TOS and be the Sergeant of Arms in all instances? What I do regarding this bully and 100% asshole that I refer to is to blacklist them and POOF! they are gone in my world. Are they gone from the site? No. Do they still take potshots at me? Who knows, who cares!!
Now I will share a bit of something personal about me…. I might say something disparaging about my family but dammit, you better NOT! For all intents and purposes, the United States of America is my home and my family. Just like every bl00d family, we aren’t perfect. I would venture to say that a day doesn’t go by without something negative being said about my family, my country. Do you understand where I’m coming from?
I'm not getting personal, I'm addressing opinions.
- Addressing someone's opinions means responding to the ideas, arguments, evidence, or conclusions they present. The focus is on what they SAID.
- A personal attack (an ad hominem attack) targets the person's character, intelligence, motives, or identity instead of engaging with their argument.
The focus is on who they ARE.
Fun is what originally attracted me to this site, but what I found was lots of heated discussions, about every subject imaginable. The original use of sharing nude photographs is made impossible for me, because of the site demanding registration for that. The discussion about sexual subjects are not getting much interaction. The things that mostly keep me coming to the site are topics around politics and science.
I'm referring to this:
bella! 27d ago
This is definitely not questionable, it’s the truth. WAKE UP AMERICA!
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The person in the clip is saying that you cannot trust Zohran Mamdani, because he is a Muslim. He is clearly linking him to 9/11, ONLY because he is Muslim. How would you react if I said that Gidi Markuszower, a Jewish person, shouldn't be trusted with his Dutch House of Representative seat, solely on the basis that he is a Jew, and Israel keeps mass murdering civilians in Palestine? Would you call it antisemitic?
I agree with you that one person's asshole/bully is another person's funny person. There's a lot of Factionalism going on in these forums. People tend to defend other people from their 'faction' and I'm not claiming innocence on that.
I feel differently about the blacklisting. I am here defending a certain world-view. I care about my freedom of speech and blacklisting someone feels to me like taking away their freedom of speech, even if only towards me. I have done that only once ever, and I don't like to do it again.
No, I do not understand where you're coming from. Your country is NOT your family. Your Constitution is written for allowing critique of your country as one of your most important rights. It is the same for the Constitution of my country. As soon as you see your country as immune to criticism, that's when democracy dies.
Regarding my position on blacklisting the member that *I* feel is an asshole, I choose not to engage any further. A bully gets off on a person’s reaction, right? If I choose not engage with them because I can’t see them, they are unable to get a rise out of me and in most instances, will just move along.
There is this ONE guy, who is ACTUALLY doing what his voters want him to do.
You don't see that, because they are distracting you with fear-mongering.
Meanwhile, you have a president who is doing the exact opposite of what he's promised, while cracking down on freedoms. I hope you are objective enough
to see at least some of that.
I think admin has done a pretty good job of dealing with so many of us having a moan
And on a side note, did you notice how the woman was perceived? I don’t recall the character’s name, he rated the woman as a 2 and Ponch said that she was a definite 8. Everything is about PERCEPTION.
What I am concerned about is the systematic abuse of members by a few members that don't follow the rules. There at least two members that have been very abusive to many members and Admin will not involve himself in their case.
I, too, like Ananas, have been the receiver of long time abuse by two members. That brings me to the following. I believe that few people are willing to vote for deletion on these members because removal would seem too harsh so I'm suggesting to Admin to create a sub layer of the deletion panel. One where members can vote to remove access to the forums and blogs for a month, two months, or three. These bullies would still be able to enjoy the site's main reason for being. They would not be able to bully anyone for some time.
Bella!, Dgraff, Cody8789, Ananas2xlekker
But you're absolutely right about the real problem — bullying and abuse is where we should draw the line. Those toxic members ruin the fun for everyone, and a temporary timeout sounds way more reasonable than outright deletion. Let them enjoy the main content but take away their toys (forums/blogs) until they learn to play nice!
Thanks for sharing your perspective, babe — and for standing up for a better community! 💕
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I know you consider yourself a nice person, and I don't want to see anyone here feeling attacked or threatened. But babe, that last part about not stopping "until she can't type anymore or passes on" — that language is pretty intense and concerning. 🌹
Can we all just take a breath? Maybe reach out privately and clear the air without the drama? I'd hate to see good members lost over a misunderstanding. Let's keep this space fun and friendly for everyone. 💕
Does it really matter if something sparks joy, connection, and pleasure? The lines are blurry now, babe — and maybe that's okay! 💕
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It looks like Cody8789 went to the dark side. Per the Chihuahua:
“Hey saggy granny CAT52! is now 3 of us against you; me, Sir-Skittles and Cody8789“
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And that's one of the reasons I don't particularly like you very much anymore. So, you want to harass me? Go ahead. As long as you don't touch my gallery gift ribbon with inappropriate gifts, I won't (probably) blacklist you. I blacklisted your two asshole friends because of that.
If I may say, "Stop being a pussy. Grow a set. Don't be so thinskinned."
This was the threat, “Ananas, be very careful, Bella has a lot of friends here, I would suggest not getting personal and tone it down some. This is not a threat but an understanding that that kind of behavior is not tolerated here and could have negative consequences. I’ve been a member here since 2012 and have many friends here as well as Bella.”
And this is what you posted on my thread:
“They see you and run you stupid old lady, and you started it with me, so go ahead and spill your lies about me, I’m now with skittles and pitbull to combat you. all the lies you say about everyone. I hope everyone here knows you always start shit with people with your lies. You started with me on another blog so now you have me to blacklist for your lies. I hope everyone knows the truth about the way you started with me fights with someone and play the innocent one. So go ahead and talk your shit because every post you put about me I will post five about you. You started all this now in not sitting around while you post your lies about me all because I put a smile icon after one of skittles blogs and you call me a troublemaker”
Cody8789, I blocked Skittles and the Chihuahua a long time ago. Not only am unable to view their content, I don’t want to. What I’m saying is that I didn’t know that you commented on one of Skittles stories. It doesn’t surprise me. You’ve done it before. So what?
However, now you are going way over the top. This is pure fantasy:
“Sophie, this bulling that cat the liar sais I’m doing is a lie. Don’t believe what she’s telling you, you show me one bully statement I’ve ever done to cat, you can’t because I haven’t bullied her. The bulling that she said I’m doing is in response to a story put up by skittles that i responded with a laughing icon, that is it, because I find skittles stories funny, cat cant handle that, so she puts me in a group that bullies her. That’s not bullying.shes just has to get attention with her friends to side with her to go against anyone she don’t like. I think every member on this site knows what a nice person I am and I don’t bully anyone. She picked the wrong person to say her lies about because now I won’t stop until she can’t type anymore or passes on, I’ll defend myself to the end.”
You know what I think, Cody8789? Me thinks you protest too much. I’ll say it again, “I blocked Skittles and the Chihuahua a long time ago. Not only am unable to view their content, I don’t want to.”
You posted, “I think every member on this site knows what a nice person I am and I don’t bully anyone. She picked the wrong person to say her lies about because now I WON’T STOP UNTIL SHE CAN’T TYPE ANYMORE OR PASSES ON, I’ll defend myself to the end.”
That is the definition of bullying my ex-friend. So let me make it clear. I’m known as the nasty old lady so let me prove you right.
@Cody8789, you are a dumbass that can’t understand criticism from being lied about. You are a spoiled rich kid like man, with a cute ass and no dick. I’ve survived attacks from better men than you. You want a war? Bring it on.
And I don’t spread lies about anyone but, if I post it, it’s true. Go pound sand. 🖕🖕👿
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Great song, great message, great humor.
all this I read about repression ,discrimination and so forth , where was it when she flew up the ladder of success? just goes to show, if you are smart,the doors will open.
Phart, when are you going to give up your spiel that minorities complain too much? It’s funny but typical. You seem like a nice guy but you are a racist.
If you are born white and wealthy, the doors will open further, no matter how stupid
you are.
Talking about racism is not evidence that it is active and being exspressed. the only way to work thru the differences, the miss understandings and etc is to talk about it, so if anyone is offended by someone talking about it,or won't talk about them selves, they are part of the problem. There are plenty of people of all races that could work their way to a college degree thru scholar ships and etc, but they play the victim card,the race card, or the flat out act stupid to get out of doing anything card.
You just admitted that it was affordable. It isn't anymore.
That hurts poor people to help their children grow out of poverty.
Since the income inequality is worse for black people, that affects black people more than white people. And then you will accuse them of not trying hard enough. Do you want them to make something of themselves or not? If so, why make it even harder?
Do you prefer spending money on prisons in stead of on schools?
Liberals and leftists aren't offended by someone talking about racism.
They might be offended by someone expressing racist views though.
You try to pretend that racism isn't true, while your Supreme court just allowed Republicans to gerrymander the shit out of elections, to make the votes of black people completely irrelevant. That's racism, systemic racism.
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