Oh man. You don’t know what a dam you might break with your almost quaintly naive sounding question from out in the woods of Oregon.
I came of age in the 1970s as a gay man in West Hollywood, so I kinda know my way around the block as they say.
I now live retired with my husband of 27 years in semi-rural Arizona. Believe me when I tell you that this is the land of bi/curious/married men. You are so so not alone. The ironic thing is that now in my man-man marriage I find myself in the same situation as you with a spouse who no longer has any interest in sex with me. My advantage over you is that he knows and accepts that I need to find sex elsewhere. However that doesn’t mean it’s easy, because there are very few single and self-realized “gay” men in these parts who can operate as independent souls. All are married and, well, functioning just like you on the sly.
Point being, yeah, buddies are out there in droves but hooking up here still feels in the Dark Ages. If I could afford living in Los Angeles again, I certainly would, but it’s not an option and I do love my husband who has a job here. So yeah. Life!

I do pleasure a Married man Mark.Been tough having him get away this winter with weather and the flu. Normally if he is running a errand in my area which is on a weekend he'll stop in.Last time here was in the fall.He was sitting on my couch pants around his ankles me giving him a blow job When he got a text. Knew it was from his wife.He said sorry I got to go and stood and pulled his pants up and ran out my front door leaving me naked with my Little hardon.But it did turn me on knowing that I am a cock slut for him and always ready to serve him As he say's his Fagboi. Been trying to hook up with another married guy named Tom. Been texting back and forth but he seems to be nervous.So hoping with better weather I'll see Mark.

My wife still liked sex but on her terms
Like you I found play with men on line was too good, and I had to go physical. Have blogged about it. Pretty sure I am fully bi now.

Totally. Guys never really lose their sex drive

I believe a lot of married sexless men eventually start sucking cock or think about it. Men need to be serviced and men sucking cock is a relief we need and no strings attached 😈

I found my friend on SilverDaddies, and I can tell you that it’s a very common for older men in a sexless marriage to look for fun elsewhere. Sometimes it’s to the point that they can’t get away for a long periods. At least in my area, the majority of men are in this situation.

I'm married. I do still enjoy sex with the wife, but she's usually not into it or has the time every other day, but that's how often I like to fuck.

So since I do like blowjobs, I find there are many men, both older and young, that are very willing to suck my dick. I mean a lot! Less common, I find a guy that wants his cock sucked, so I'll do that too, and swallow his load when I can.

But that's just because I guess I'm horny often, but less so for my wife. But we both still enjoy having sex. Even now I'm sitting here with a semi-erect wishing there was someone around to suck my cock or a warm pussy to fuck.